Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Team Teal Tuesday - Holding Space


My 7-year old niece, Presley, was very curious about why her cousin Cris {the groom} would save a seat for Grandma Marti and his friend, Shawn, knowing they couldn't be at his wedding. We explained to her that it was in memory of Grandma and Shawn, and just a nice way to remember them and wish that they could be there.

Presley asked, "Is the blue one for Grandma?" and her dad said, "Yes - and that's teal."

"Why is it teal?" she asked.

"Because that's the color that represents ovarian cancer - the kind of cancer Grandma had," he answered.

Presley considered this tidbit, and soon she replied, "Well then, is red just for regular death?"

"Yes," her daddy replied, "I suppose it is, sweetheart." 
It's so sweet, and slightly heartbreaking, helping my mom's youngest grandchildren understand where she is and why she had to go. I love that the older "grands" {as Mom called them} are honoring her in ways that keep my mom with us ~ reminding us that she is everywhere we are.

Thanks to my nephew Cris and his beautiful bride, Mandi
for this sweet gesture honoring my mom, and also Shawn.
What a lovely way to hold a space for them,
in the audience and in our hearts.

19 comments:

Stephanie @ La Dolce Vita said...

Oh! This made me cry! thinking of you ...

Sian said...

What a lovely thing to do. It sounds like a wedding absolutely full of love.

Ruth said...

What a wonderful thing to do. Sian's right, it does sound like a wedding absolutely full of love.

Cheri said...

What a lovely way to honor those who have gone. I know your Mom wanted to be there for this wedding - and I'm sure in her own way, she was!

Fiona@staring at the sea said...

Such a lovely thing for them to do. My beloved Gran passed away before my wedding. Instead of throwing my bouquet to the guests, I laid it on her grave.

scrappyjacky said...

Such a lovely way to honour them....and I'm sure they were there in spirit.

Irene said...

What a lovely way of honoring them.

Karen said...

I've never heard of this being done, but it is such a beautiful tribute.

furrypig said...

gosh that is sooo lovely xxx

debs14 said...

What a lovely gesture. Shows how much she is being missed by everyone in her family.

Alison said...

what a lovely thing to do!...it must be such a good feeling to know how much your mom was loved!
Alison xx

Becky said...

This brought tears to my eyes too, as did your lovely card this morning. Thinking of you xx

Maria Ontiveros said...

Beautiful! I feel like Marti had two front row seats.
Rinda

Gail said...

Oh what a lovely way of honoring them. It brought tears to my eyes.

Denise said...

Brought tears to my eyes and a massive lump to my throat x x x x

Jimjams said...

Wonderful - beautiful - heart-wrenching!

Amy said...

Oh that is just a really lovely thing to do!

helena said...

what a lovely thing to do, sounds like your nephew is a lovely thoughtful person

humel said...

Oh my word, Deb. What a beautiful, beautiful thing to do xx

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